PDA
What's the deal with PDA (public displays of affection)? In a relationship, I think it's important that the two are close together, and have a special bond... but this however doesn't mean they should just stand in the middle of a public place and think they are the only people in this world and make out furiously.
Ok, to an extent, it's reasonable to share affection and do things that are "cute" or "romantic" even if it's in a relationship's 'own world'. (Often times, guys may not see the "cute"ness of these situations whereas girls do, but I'm not saying that's giving me a bias to this article). But even with the understanding of relationships naturally aww-ing the public in cases, ultimately, "making out" does NOT qualify as cute or romantic. Seriously. Not even to the ditzy girls who would find anything aww-ing.
Now on the other hand, if we actually get into the situation and understand more than the plain "making out" aspect, such as: a guy and girl meet each other from afar, and haven't seen each other in such a long time that they run up to each other and kiss, while holding each other in their arms for hours and hours and just stand there together... yes that is a public display of their affection, but it qualifies as being "romantic" or "cute". Even I, as an angry guy especially on this subject of pda, agree that it qualifies as being aww-worthy. But if these two just walk up to each other after seeing the other just a few hours or minutes ago, and just start orally attacking each other... well does that really seem romantic to you?
The expression "get a room" isn't merely a simple joke to "hahaha you're so hilarious!" to. It actually means more than the some how 'funny' aspect of them getting down privately in a room. That "get a room" phrase implies that we (as the public) really don't give a crap how much you two are in love; share your affection within the two of you, not in public. It's not saying don't make out, because that would be just plain selfish on the public's part. It's saying you can share your connection together, just not here where it makes others furiously disgusted.
On a side (but somewhat related) note, here's what couples really shouldn't do:
- don't patronise others just because you're in a relationship and they're not
(do you think because in your mind you put yourself as superior, no one else would think the opposite?)
- don't detach your friends just because they're not directly within your relationship's "world"
(a relationship should be a compliment, not a replacement of other friendships)
- and finally, don't forget that there are others around you when you decide to publicly display your affection.
- Ultimately, don't let a relationship cloud your mind.
Ok, to an extent, it's reasonable to share affection and do things that are "cute" or "romantic" even if it's in a relationship's 'own world'. (Often times, guys may not see the "cute"ness of these situations whereas girls do, but I'm not saying that's giving me a bias to this article). But even with the understanding of relationships naturally aww-ing the public in cases, ultimately, "making out" does NOT qualify as cute or romantic. Seriously. Not even to the ditzy girls who would find anything aww-ing.
Now on the other hand, if we actually get into the situation and understand more than the plain "making out" aspect, such as: a guy and girl meet each other from afar, and haven't seen each other in such a long time that they run up to each other and kiss, while holding each other in their arms for hours and hours and just stand there together... yes that is a public display of their affection, but it qualifies as being "romantic" or "cute". Even I, as an angry guy especially on this subject of pda, agree that it qualifies as being aww-worthy. But if these two just walk up to each other after seeing the other just a few hours or minutes ago, and just start orally attacking each other... well does that really seem romantic to you?
The expression "get a room" isn't merely a simple joke to "hahaha you're so hilarious!" to. It actually means more than the some how 'funny' aspect of them getting down privately in a room. That "get a room" phrase implies that we (as the public) really don't give a crap how much you two are in love; share your affection within the two of you, not in public. It's not saying don't make out, because that would be just plain selfish on the public's part. It's saying you can share your connection together, just not here where it makes others furiously disgusted.
On a side (but somewhat related) note, here's what couples really shouldn't do:
- don't patronise others just because you're in a relationship and they're not
(do you think because in your mind you put yourself as superior, no one else would think the opposite?)
- don't detach your friends just because they're not directly within your relationship's "world"
(a relationship should be a compliment, not a replacement of other friendships)
- and finally, don't forget that there are others around you when you decide to publicly display your affection.
- Ultimately, don't let a relationship cloud your mind.
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